Most travelers arrive in Thailand with a list of questions about kathoey, and most of those lists start with the wrong ones. Asking "Did you have the surgery?" or "Are you really a man?" tells the person that you care more about their body than about them. This guide covers the questions for ladyboys in Thailand that open real conversations, the ones that shut them down, and how to tell the difference at a cabaret, a bar, or a coffee shop in Bangkok. The advice below reflects